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Painful Purpose…

I have decided that there is no returning to normal after grief. If you have been there, I am sure you would mostly likely agree. I know my family and I are 20 months out from the moment our lives changed forever losing their father and my husband. Grief changes everything and the struggle is real and personal. If I can be a little vulnerable myself and speak from my heart that the sadness is almost unbearable at times and the roller coaster of emotions are still there. Widowhood is lonely and hard. Grief is individual and our paths are not the same, but can you agree with me that tears are the silent language of grief that others many times do not, see?

I know God’s promises are true and he comes alongside us to help us through our most difficult times. Because of that I know peace is available to those whose trust is in Him and that gives us hope and comfort for which I am so grateful. There are some things I am learning along the way in this season of life……Even though I am an introvert at heart, reaching out to others to hear their stories softens my story. I believe everyone has a story, and they are anxious to tell it. There is something about just taking time to listen to others in their pain, if even for a few moments the feelings of hopelessness can be lifted. Grieving people want and need to feel supported, encouraged, and loved. Well, you can imagine my pleasant surprise when a scripture came across my path recently to explain this area. 2 Corinthians 1:3-6, (paraphrased version) “All praise to God who comes alongside us when we go through hard times, and before you know it, he brings us alongside someone else who is going through hard times so that we can be there for that person just as God was for us,” (MSG). Did you hear that…The God of the universe loves and cares for us so that we might pass it on! I don’t know about you, but that gives me a shot in the arm to move forward even when I don’t feel like it. It helps to put a purpose on the pain.

Here's the truth: “We really do need each other in community, it’s healthy, beneficial, and strengthens our walk.” That’s why we have a widow’s group. To be there, to listen, to come alongside, to care, and laugh at times. Yes, to even laugh. Laughter is the shock absorber of life!

If you are still in the season recovering from grief, we want to hear from you. You can connect with me at and find out about our next event.



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