It was just two years ago Pat, and I were busy going about our lives just like many of you. We were driving to Florida for a brief getaway. Spending the night at Graystone RV park in Mount Airy, North Carolina was significant because my husband, Pat, was a fan of the Andy Griffith Show. Mount Airy is complete with squad car tours and a mock set up of the show since it is the birthplace of Andy Griffith. We arrived at our destination later in the week and had the best days riding our bikes, spending time with grandkids, and just catching up relaxing together. And then it happened, that moment when something happens in your life that changes you forever.
I walked into the hotel room after a short time at the pool, to find that Pat never woke up from his nap this side of heaven. At 2:33 on Oct. 10, 2021, he was escorted from this world for the next just like that. The painful emotions were at an all-time high as I tried my best to maneuver through the next steps for the agonizing days ahead. You know the days you put on the smile even through a multitude of silent tears.
Fast forward nearly two years and learning to accept the grief there are still those moments that come to mind often. Like the anticipation of him coming home with that big heartwarming smile and asking, “What’s for supper?” Holding hands, chatting about each of our days, riding in the car singing together (Islands in the Stream) one of our favorites, leaning on his shoulder for comfort when needed.
What can we learn in hard times? Lean harder on the one who really cares. “The Lord is close the brokenhearted; he recuses those whose spirits are crushed. The righteous person faces many troubles, but the Lord comes to the rescue each time” (Psalm 34:18-19 NLT). God is faithful in his promises. Life at best is short. James, the brother of Jesus said “We do not know what will happen tomorrow. For what is your life? It is even a vapor that appears for a little time and then vanishes away” (James 4:14). The Bible seems to be so accurate doesn’t it.
Here’s the truth: “Those who died yesterday had a plan for this morning. And those who died this morning had plans for tonight. Don’t take life for granted. In the blink of an eye, everything can change. So, forgive often and love with a full heart. You never know when you may not have that chance again.
P.S. I saw this quote and loved it, “Be the things you loved most about the people who are gone.” I am working on approachability & compassion. What about you?